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"Are chopsticks OK?"
#1
I heard it again last night at a Japanese Food Court in Gardena. My order of tonkatsu is ready. I go to pick it up and the server asks me if "chopticks are OK?". I told her that I can use hashi and that my pop was a nisei. This is so frustrating but it has happened all of my life. White people see me as Japanese. Japanese people see me as Hakujin. It is all part of being halvsie. Shikata ga nai desho.
Matthew Ota
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#2
I think it's really a point of view. I certainly would not get that annoyed by being asked. Think of it this way if i got insulted because she did not ask me, it's the same. Like, you think i can use chopstick just because i look asian?



It is common courtesy is all.
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#3
Like how a white teacher asked me when I was a kid if I took my shoes off before entering a house...in front of the whole class.
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#4
Now that would be embarassing. I have had similiar experiences with teachers throughout the ages. But 'tis because i thought i was somehow special, you know. Everyone gets nudged once in a while. Even the white kids. So i do not see how your point is valid.
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#5
I agree with heynow's point about it going the other way too, that we might be offended if someone assumes we must know Japanese things because we are part Japanese.



In some ways I feel like other people (including other part Japanese) can't do the right thing in terms of assumptions - they shouldn't assume that all mixed Japanese will look very 'Japanese' or visibly Japanese like many of the mixed tarento, they shouldn't assume we speak both of our parents' languages fluently etc, but on the other hand, there are times when you feel like screaming, 'I'm part Japanese!!! PLEASE realise!'
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#6
Hmm. well my dad was not Japanese. He was a Nisei
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#7
soooomtimes I am also asked this question.



if the chopsticks are fine! its ok for me. not 2nd class wooden pieces of shit with tiny wood needles that peek and taste like creyon in my mouth.

In my mind the clerk wants me to be satisfied. for me it is not a thing about being japanese.

if the chopsticks are pointed, in the best way coated its ok.

but I get what you want to say; if you want to be originaly "down to the soil" - "part of the game"japanese it is surely an important question.

cause my background is austrian/german and as Hitler started to lose, he also asked if his crew knew how to use knife and spoon. and what he actually meant was if i could hold the "Gabel" what means "Gab!-el" and the "mEsser". if they could fuckin' hold the instruments they use to feed their mouth?



i heared recently another question like this from a girl:"do you watch porn?"

i replied no " i just do girls..."
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#8
Well i can tell ya this much... 'tis all based on assumptions. Don't go in expecting any thing much and in one way or another and you won't end up disappointed, ya know. But 'tis slightly annoying to be judged by ones looks. And it is never easy to tell anyway what motivation might lie behind any preconceived action from oneselves' point of view. As i journey on thru life I've seen truth in the sayin' that you should not always judge a book by its cover.
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#9
jobsticks! <img src='http://www.halvsie.com/forums/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/w00t.gif' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':w00t:' /> are ok...
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#10
I was at the combini last week. I grabbed some fried rice and brought it to the counter. My mind was still off on my work, and I wasn't fully paying attention. The woman at the register was new (I go to this combini every day), and she asked me if I wanted chopsticks. Well, I had completely zoned out on what I had bought, so I just said 'yes', because usually I do want chopsticks when asked. Fortunately, another woman at the store, who knows me well and was standing behind the register lady, said 'you mean a spoon, right?'. 'Yeah a spoon!' I agreed.



I thanked her for it the next day. I'm still not sure why the lady asked me if I wanted chopsticks - who eats fried rice with chopsticks? Maybe my foreignness freaked her out.
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#11
I always bring chopsticks with me so it is really irrelavant that someone would ask. it would always be, "no thanks. I have my own". those laminated or plastic ones annoy me to no end. I would rather have those cheap wooden ones any day over those.



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#12
well seen I am one of the least japanese looking halvsie around, I almost never am treated as a Japanese. As I have said before, here in Greece we are really not so politcally correct. people always ask stupid things. So I am kind of immune... but there are times I get a bit frustrated..
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#13
I rarely eat at Japanese restaurants here in Sweden as I think the food isn't much like "real" Japanese food. But the times I've been it seems like they give chopsticks to everyone, and if you want a knife and fork you have to ask. I wouldn't be offended if someone asked me if I wanted chopsticks though. I know I look like a white guy, so I don't expect people to realize that I'm hafu.
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#14
it doesn't matter to me. <img src='http://www.halvsie.com/forums/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/yawn.gif' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':yawn:' />
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